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Why what you want is not always the right thing to do



Today I got a rejection for something I really wanted. For something that makes my heart beat faster just thinking about it. For something that I feel belongs to me and that allows me to experience myself even more. For something I have wanted for more than a decade. And then a rejection, what a great surprise! I asked myself, how can this be? Do you know the feeling of feeling at a loss and not understanding the world at first?


At first, when I read the news, I was very calm and could accept it well. Then, a little later, the tears came. But thank you, I'm fine ☺. I was just a bit sad because I had already got used to my future life. But at the same time I was relieved because now there is finally clarity. No more waiting and uncertainty about what will happen next. I then tried to understand what had happened. That's what we all like to do, myself included: analyse everything in the hope of finding answers. In the best case, answers that confirm that we did everything right and that it wasn't our fault. So how could it have happened when I was sure it was mine?


What was most exciting was that I received the news after an intensive seminar weekend. I had already sensed a few days ago that a decision was soon to be made. Yes, by now it's almost a bit spooky, all the things I know beforehand! At the seminar, we meditated over and over again for two days and aligned ourselves internally. We mentally went into our future to draw into our lives what suits us and what we desire from the bottom of our hearts. We attract things with the same frequency that we radiate. The laws are that simple. That means I was not surprised when I received the expected mail today. I just thought to myself: 1.5 days after the seminar, that was fast! The content was just not quite what I had hoped for. I think the seminar changed something in me that led to exactly that.


What is different? I feel so clear and so connected to myself right now, and I'm so well aligned, so everything just flew at me the last few days. To name a few examples: Tickets for sold-out events, a childhood friend who contacted me again out of the blue after years, messages from new acquaintances from the seminar, even though we haven't even exchanged numbers and names, and so on. In the meantime, nothing surprises me any more (in contrast to those around me ☺). In short: things are going well and I seem to be well connected! My world has realigned itself and everything is just coming to me with ease. This means that the rejection was also part of this realignment in my life. Because if we always attract exactly what suits us, that also means that if it had fit, it would have turned out differently. It just wasn't a match. The beauty of this "universal" filter is simply that it shows me quite clearly: something much better is waiting for me!


Today I was able to really feel the discrepancy between desire and life. And I am grateful for that, because it has made things clearer to me! We wish for certain things in life, we imagine them, we feel them and we fall in love with our vision. But we must not forget that there are things bigger than us. Things that we cannot grasp with our minds and therefore cannot imagine. I.e. you may wish for a house and imagine your absolute dream house. You fall in love with the colour, the wood and also the hammock in your garden. And then life presents you with a houseboat and you realise that it is yours. Also in the colour, with wood and a hammock. But you would never have thought yourself that you would find happiness there, so you couldn't imagine it any other way. Life knows better and we can trust that it does. And not to do so, for me, also has something of a certain arrogance towards life. Our mind is so limited and cannot grasp all the beautiful things that are waiting for us outside. We can believe that there is more than we can imagine!


I am happy that I am now so full of love for life and in trust that I can accept everything quite well, no matter how it comes. There will always be situations where we don't get what we want, even if it feels so damn right. When we let go of everything - be it situations, people or even expectations - then we are free for what can come. I'm feeling haphazard right now after the new news and I realise that it's made me let go even more. I no longer have a plan, no expectations, no concrete wish, no picture in my mind of how things should be and how my life should go on. I give up my security thinking and control. I surrender. I am now even more open to what is to come and surrender to life. And it actually doesn't feel scary, it feels absolutely free! I don't have to plan anything, I don't have to control anything, I don't have to cling and thus I have my energy and hands free for other things. This is pure surrender to life! I am ready to receive what is meant for me and everything else can go! This is where the wheat is separated from the chaff. I am full of confidence and joy and simply feel that the best is yet to come on my path - and that is saying something ☺️!


But enough about me now. So what can you do when you have a "setback"? I would say: celebrate your life! Accept everything that happens lovingly, because life has given you a gift with it and sorted out what doesn't suit you! Your match will come, because there is no other way if you just let life happen. Don't control it, don't overplan it and let it go. Often the really good things come from directions and at times when we don't expect them. What feels good and right, it is, even if it scares you to admit it to yourself. Whether it's taking a new job, moving to a new place, or even standing by your feelings and engaging with love. Be brave, let go and go for it and see what happens! You can't do anything wrong, because everything happens for you. All events (even the supposedly "negative" ones) and all people who come into your life are there for you to get to know yourself even better and to experience life in all its facets! You are allowed to live pure abundance and nothing less. Life has nothing else in store for you. And then you just have to grab it when it's there - and say yes to yourself and a fulfilled life. No one can take the last step away from you!


I wish you from the bottom of my heart that you trust life even more and finally let go of control. Only then can everything find its flow and the right particles find their place in your life. And magic happens: you live a fulfilled life that is even better than you could have ever imagined! Indian word of honour!


What does a setback mean to you? Have you received setbacks and how did you deal with them? Looking back, were they perhaps the right thing to do and did something good come out of it? Do you feel relaxed right now and trust in life? Or are you still holding back yourself and your feelings? Do you like to plan and control and thus put yourself above life? Do you wish for more ease and flow in your life? Are you ready to open up to the unknown and receive what is for you? Would you grab it if it was there?

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