About respect and energy in relationships

I would like to share something with you today that has often occupied me and that I believe is of great importance for our coexistence. It's about how we meet people. Most of the time we are not aware of this, we are just the way we are and rarely question it. Those of you who are already more aware will certainly know what I'm talking about. I also started my podcast on the topic of how you make a difference in the world. And how you treat each other is one of the key cornerstones of this.

Before you start thinking about what you want to change in the world and what you should study or do professionally, I would recommend starting with yourself first, just like I do with myself. Think about it: Who are you? How do you meet people every day? How do you want people to treat you? Which people do you let into your environment?

I'm also speaking from my own experience here and I see time and time again that people come into our lives when we have energy and then quickly leave again when we're not at our best. Do you know that? These emotional waves are completely normal and human, but this “in” and “out” behavior is not. If this is also the case for you, then it indicates that the person is only in your life because they want something from you, namely: Energy. They want your energy, they want to be infected and inspired by it, they want to recharge their batteries. And as soon as you turn off this source of energy, he's gone again because he's not getting what he needs.

How can you tell that this is the case? You will certainly feel bad somehow after the dive and not understand the whole thing. You can also see it in the fact that as soon as you are not in your power, contact “falls asleep”, messages are not answered and the person becomes unreliable or even disrespectful. Ignorance is disrespectful behavior that we must not accept. And then, as soon as your energy is back, that person is back too. Of course, this is not just limited to professional life, but you can also experience this in your private life, even in your family, with friends or in your relationship.

What can you do? It's important to realize that this is happening right now and that this pattern keeps repeating itself. You have done nothing wrong and I believe that turning away is the only sensible thing to do. After all, an energy predator won't be any less of a predator if you call him on it, as his motivation is to drain your energy. He will probably even leave of his own accord because he feels caught out and realizes that his behaviour is no longer working.

And then, in the next step, you can become aware of how you actually want to be treated and which people you want in your life. That's the fun part. With every realization, however sad it may be, there is a chance that you will bring about a change that will make your life even better.

We all deserve people in our lives who treat us with respect. People who are on an equal footing with us and people whose encounters make us feel good or even better than before - not worse. In today's society, especially on social media, you get the feeling that everyone always has to be “high life” and that everything in life has to be great. Everyone posts the most amazing photos of their vacations and weekend trips. Whether this is always the case remains to be seen. We try to outdo each other with our best lives. But there's nothing to win here. It's about how you are happy and that has nothing to do with comparisons - quite the opposite. And it's about thinking about which people contribute to our happiness and which don't.

We all deserve to be accepted for who we are. We all deserve to have people in our lives who not only love us for our fun-loving side, but also like our whole package - with all our facets. People who are there when we're not doing so well and don't look so great. When we can't find the positive words to say because life is overwhelming us and we need positive encouragement. Always keep this in mind: you are exactly right the way you are, otherwise you wouldn't have been born like this! And there are people out there who love you just the way you are. So let's not waste time with energy robbers and people who haven't cleaned up their own inner mess yet. A clear statement on my part.

I want to encourage you to stand up for yourself and believe that the right people are out there for you. I see time and time again how people are stuck in unhappy relationships and put up with disrespectful things. Let's break that and create a whole new way of being together. That's what I would like to see. A respectful togetherness with mutual support and good intentions in the relationship. To create encounters that are good for us, that strengthen and inspire each other. And I believe that it starts with each individual, with setting higher standards and thus positively shaping our environment. This makes a real difference in the world.

The way you meet people has such a big impact, because we all shape this society together. And we can choose what it looks like. This means that you can inspire and make a difference yourself. A contribution doesn't always have to be something ‘big’, whatever that may be, but it starts small. It starts with you and your everyday encounters. And once these are sorted out, you'll have plenty of energy for all your great and world-changing plans for tomorrow!

Who are the people around you? Do you feel comfortable with them? Can you be who you are or do you feel strained? Do you have situations in which you feel wrong and bad? And how do you want to feel? How do you treat other people? And how would you like to meet other people in the future? What do you specifically want to change?