On your way to the sea

About companions and a clear decision

Today I'm writing to you from Bremen. The city has a special and lively energy for me and wonderful things always happen here. Everything is in flux, I have surprising encounters, deep conversations and feel inspired. I could have written about four posts today. But let's start with this one :-).

My last week after the weekend seminar with Dr. Joe Dispenza was just crazy. The meditations have turned my whole inner life upside down. Life is just showing me where my journey is going and more importantly with whom. This has been a week of clarification and clarity. And it shows me again how important it is to align ourselves inwardly with what we want. At the same time, we are allowed to let go of what no longer fits, as difficult as it sometimes seems to be.

I was talking to a friend about this topic earlier. It was mostly about the relationships in my life last week. And I'm not just talking about love relationships here, but any kind of relationship, i.e. friends, family, colleagues, etc.. I could clearly feel what doesn't fit (anymore) right now. Do you know what it's like when relationships suddenly seem to be blocked and things no longer flow as they should? The only way is to let go, relax and open up space for something new. Often easier said than done.

Besides those who are allowed to leave, new people have also come into my life. Among them were familiar people from the old days with whom I had not been in contact for what felt like an eternity. I was allowed to remember the feeling of familiarity that I have in these friendships. Here you don't have to explain yourself, there are hardly any irritations or misunderstandings. You simply know each other and accept the other person as he or she is. You share a common past, have developed together and have gone through good and bad times. I am so infinitely grateful for this memory. Decades can pass and when you meet, it's as if you've never been apart. You just pick up the conversation where you left off the last time. It's a feeling of coming home for me.

I believe that our relationships play a special role in life. We may see them as valuable companions on our life journey. They come and go. Some of them stay longer, some shorter. The most important thing from my point of view, no matter what happens, is to stay on your own path and trust. I always say "I want to go to the sea!" and I mean that metaphorically (even if those who know me know that it could also be meant literally ;-)). I have promised myself that I will reach it. For me, the sea stands for my dream life. For the fulfilment of my wishes and desires. For the life I want to lead, my professional fulfilment and my wonderful relationships in it. And on my way to the sea, I am becoming freer bit by bit by remembering the core of my being. I enjoy the variety of landscapes along the way, overcoming challenges and growing from them. I learn what I like and what makes my heart beat faster. I enjoy the gifts along the way and rejoice in how colourful and beautiful the path is.

In the course of our lives, we take on so much that does not belong to us. This happens through our upbringing by our parents, school, education and working life. Life and society teach us how to be. We are supposed to fit in and fit in so that everything makes a harmonious whole. But often we move further and further away from ourselves, until at some point we no longer recognise ourselves. We are insecure and full of self-doubt and wonder what actually happened. This is often the time when we begin to consciously reflect on our lives and work on ourselves. I felt the same way myself.

On the way back to ourselves, we meet different people again and again. We can learn so much through relationships and I believe that exactly the right people always come into our lives. As difficult as the interaction may be sometimes, they are so infinitely valuable because fears and issues are activated. For me, my relationships have always been an absolute self-awareness booster. They mirror to me where I am right now and what I may look at more closely.

What I have learned on the journey is to recognise that I can continue on my path consistently - no matter what. In the past, I often stopped for a longer time, for example when significant people came into my life. I wanted to spend time with them, to be considerate of them by adapting to their pace, or to support them on their own path. That in itself is something beautiful, only sometimes the common development was then blocked and one feels treading water. I can't and shouldn't solve their tasks, everyone is allowed to do that themselves. When we wait, we often lose a lot of energy that we need for our own path. In my opinion, the best thing is to simply take a firm step forward, work on ourselves and take good care of ourselves. And that can then be a true inspiration for others.

In the meantime, I like to let people come into my life and accompany me a bit. We exchange ideas, we learn from each other and we encourage each other on our common path. We overcome obstacles and enjoy the beautiful landscape and sunsets. And if they then want to leave again, they can. I let go and remember the beautiful time together and the shared experiences. Some stay longer and some suddenly disappear into the thicket to the right or left of the path because they would rather walk alone. Some prefer to take a diversion or another path that suits them better. The curiosity to discover new things, to leave familiar paths or even the temptation of a distraction are often too great. They have to make this experience for themselves - that is important. Sometimes I can hear them running parallel to me from a distance when there is a rustling and cracking in the bushes. But I don't call out to them, I don't persuade them to come back on my path or even to make my destination theirs. The journey and time together is based on voluntariness and mutual interest. And if the other person is important to us, then we have a deep desire to want only the best for them and to support them on their own path. What could be better than everyone finding their own fulfilling path?

And I, too, like to walk my path alone for a while. I can then let myself be guided completely by my feelings and intuition and don't have to pay attention to anyone. I experience myself and the landscape even more intensely. I love the silence, overcome obstacles alone and feel even stronger and braver afterwards. I have the feeling that I can do anything and that I am completely independent and free. I am with myself and there for myself. I have this feeling especially when I travel alone and immerse myself in new cultures and landscapes.

You want to go to the sea too? Then continue on your path and have all the experiences you want to have. Fulfil your dreams and discover life.

Stretch your limits, believe in greatness and don't let yourself be unsettled or sidetracked from your path. The sea is just too appealing. And I am sure that one day more and more people will come into your life who have the same goal as you and who want to follow the same path. They can be new acquaintances or even people from the past. And then everything will fall into place wonderfully. We will then walk together as a team or a group of like-minded people on the same path towards our wishes or even a better world. We don't wait for someone to show us the way to the sea or to lead the way, but we find it ourselves by simply setting off and seeing where it takes us. The heart and our firm belief in our goal guide us. We give each other strength and encourage each other. We free ourselves from how it has to be and define our own rules. We live the way it suits us, according to our own values and needs. And if someone wants to go a bit alone and needs space, that's perfectly fine. We still remain closely connected and will surely meet again sometime.

I wish you from the bottom of my heart that you decide to go to the sea and believe in yourself to reach it. The path will not always be easy, but it will be worth it. Don't stop for long, don't get distracted and just keep going. Let yourself be challenged and be open to what awaits you. Your feeling will guide you correctly. Your experiences will be more beautiful and intense than you could have ever imagined. I wish you that you will find the right companions who will make your heart beat faster, encourage you on your way and support you.

What is your sea? Are you already on your way or are you still hesitating? Do you have people in your life who share this goal with you? Who is putting obstacles in your way and who is always taking you off your path? Do you prefer to walk alone or with other people? Do you find it difficult to let people go? Who is especially important to you? With whom do you feel closely connected, even if you are not always together? What do you wish to experience on your way? With whom do you feel stronger and more at home? Who should accompany you on your journey?