Follow your inner “yes”

I haven't written for a long time now, I know. It's been busy as usual and for the blog I always need a clear head or a good connection to the top ;-). I want to create added value with my articles and raise awareness in the world.

Today I spent a long time in an embodiment session. What is that? You move your body to the music and then let your emotions flow. For me, there is nothing more liberating and relaxing. This is the most helpful and effective personal development tool I have discovered for myself in years. In today's session, I achieved absolute inner clarity and that's what I want to talk about today.

I often have the feeling that the majority of people go through life relatively passively. Life happens every day and they simply react to it. And after one day comes another. We acquire routines and repeat many processes. I just heard in a video today that at the age of 35, we mostly just follow habits and familiar routines - the routes we take, the household on Saturdays, the same circle of friends, the same employer with the same tasks, etc.. I believe that there is a good reason for this and that is that we can save energy as a result. But at the same time, we don't use the energy to create and develop the life we want. Because this requires absolute clarity.

If you have inner clarity, you can actively shape your life and create what you can see in your mind's eye. They are able to go through longer phases of uncertainty or challenges because they know where they want to go. They are certain that they are on the right path, even if it is not always easy.

When we don't know what we want, we often feel unbalanced. We spread our energy in all directions because we don't know where to focus it. A little goes into friendships, a large part into our job and daily challenges and another part into Netflix, shopping or social media. We feel an inner chaos, which we radiate and which is reflected back to us by those around us. This is often associated with conflicts, unstable relationships and health problems. Everything to steer us back to ourselves.

But there is a way to clarity. We often try to find our way through books, seminars and podcasts. And I also believe from my own experience that this helps a lot. But there is one thing we are missing at this point: an inner “marker” that we are on the right path. Because it's actually quite simple: we just need to train ourselves to be able to distinguish between what is right for us and what is not. What comes from fear and the head and what comes from the heart and intuition. Because therein lies the most important difference.

This is not such an easy path, as we have often been brought up since childhood to look for answers in our heads and rationalize our decisions. For example: “Mom, I'm scared!”. Mom: “You don't need to be afraid!”. She is saying that your fear is not sensible/logical. We are questioning our own feelings and also our perception, as harmless as this may seem at first. We have learned to follow “what makes sense”. The word “sense” actually refers to our “meaning” and, in my opinion, this is not in our head, but in our feelings. This means that in adulthood we can start to “re-educate” ourselves again - to undo these habits of decision-making.

We all actually know exactly what is right for us and what is not. You will surely be able to tell within seconds whether you like broccoli and spinach or not, right? And it's exactly this feeling, this clear “yes”! The feeling you get when you are asked your name and don't question it for a moment. Do it once and feel this inner clarity. That's exactly what it feels like.

It can be a very long process and I always train diligently. The aim is to be able to distinguish the “yes” from the “no” again, based on your heart. You want to make decisions that are fully in harmony with you and not made for rational, logical reasons, such as “you'll earn more money, it's easier this way, it will get you further in the future” etc. Because you will never be able to fully accept these decisions that come from your ego, from your head. This choice would never make you shine and make you happy.

In other words, you find your inner clarity by training yourself to make your decisions based on this “yes” feeling. You can start with small things like what to eat in a restaurant or clearing out your closet and keeping what is clearly yours. Everything else falls out. You can also go on vacation alone by only doing what you really want to do. And over time, your confidence in yourself and your ability to make decisions will grow stronger. And then you will find it easier and easier to apply this to the bigger decisions. Simply step by step, at your own pace.

What do you have a clear “yes” feeling about? Where are you still struggling? Are you in your head a lot? What decisions have you made on the basis of rational arguments? Were you happy with them? Which decisions did you make based on your gut feeling? How did they feel and develop later? What would you like to do to strengthen your heart connection and train yourself?